Do you worry about what people think of you? Do you tend to take on the problems of friends and family? Do you just want everybody to get along, so you do everything you can to make that happen? Well, you need to stay in your own hula hoop!
What’s in your hula hoop? Your feelings, your thoughts, your emotions, your decisions. These are the things you can control. You are the only one in charge of what’s in your hula hoop. Stay in your hula hoop.
What is not in your hula hoop? Everything else. It’s not your business to worry about what others think, or feel about you. Those things are not in your hula hoop. If someone gets mad because you say “no”; it’s not your problem. It’s not in your hula hoop. Keep others out of your hula hoop.
You also need to stay out of others people’s hula hoops. You cannot control the thoughts, feelings or emotions of anyone else. You can’t fix their problems. You can’t make them be someone they aren’t. Trying to fix their drama is a waste of your time and energy. Stay out of other’s hula hoop.
I have a hula hoop hanging on my wall to remind me to stay in my hula hoop. It takes practice, lots and lots of practice. I’m practicing right now.